ONE: Treat Your Spouse as a Partner
- What does that mean related to decision making? Learn how to option develop
- Throw all the options out there and then narrow down to what’s best for your family.
- One person should not be the dictator or treat the other like a child or employee
- Stop trying to control your partner. Ask yourself, “If I can only control my own behavior, what can I do to help the marriage?”
TWO: Prioritize your spouse over your children
- If all of your focus has been on your children for 20+ years and you’ve let your relationship fizzle, how will it be when the children are grown and gone?
THREE: Remember that a relationship is a work in progress.
- Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help
- Healthy relationship are created, not found
- Go to counseling whether you think you need it or not- “relationship coach”
- At least once a year
- Call it marriage coaching if that makes you feel better
- If you’re stuck on an issue, meet with a marriage coach to help you work through it
- It’s important to have some dedicated time to focus on that relationship and check in with each other
FOUR: Practice forgiveness(that doesn’t mean stay in an unhealthy situation)
- There may be times when your partner makes a mistake, is forgetful, is neglectful, or says or does something hurtful—whether intentionally or unintentionally
- While it’s okay to be angry, it’s also important to then let go of the anger and move on
- If you constantly bring up past hurts, it’s difficult to have a mutually loving relationship
FIVE: Take time for yourself
- It’s normal for couples to have different hobbies, interests and friends. While it’s important to spend quality time with each other, it’s equally important to spend time alone or with friends.
- By making time for yourselves, you’ll appreciate each other more.